At Some Point Of Life

The world is a better place when we get to know each other when we are a little less strange to each other

At Some Point, either I experienced it or I wrote on Quora.

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Best Character, Best Lessons!

  • Never judge a person without knowing the entire story. (Harry Potter, Severus Snape)
  • Love without expectations. (Harry Potter, Severus Snape)
  • Believe it can be done. When you believe something can be done, really believe, your mind will find the ways to do it. Believing a solution paves the way to a solution. (The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz)
  • Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve. (Napolean Hill, Think, Grow and Rich)
  • Friendship means helping a friend without a condition, without help being asked. (Harry Potter, Dobby The Elf)
  • Never give up on something you really want. However impossible things seem, there’s always a way. (Sophie Kinsella)
  • When you are in love, your happiness is never your priority. (A walk to remember, Landon Carter)
  • You can’t just switch off your feelings because the other person did. (Sophie Kinsella, Twenties)
  • And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it. (The Alchemist, Paul Coelho)
  • People never learn anything by being told, they have to find out for themselves. (Veronica Decide to Dies, Paul Coelho)
  • The only way out of the labyrinth of suffering is to forgive. (Looking For Alaska, John Green)

Dear Women,

Respect Each Other Choices:

These days feminism is the talk of the town. People love to talk about it and be a feminist. Mira Kapoor went out giving a lecture on a topic about which she is not completely aware. And here, I don’t even know the meaning of the word. Thanks to google, it saved my life.

But I know that as a human being and a girl I should respect people’s choices, which they made in their life.

My mother is a housewife and I can’t be more proud of her than I already am. If she wasn’t there, I wouldn’t be here writing this answer. She molded my life in the most beautiful way. She sacrificed her career for her children. Back then, if I had a say I would have done anything change her decision. But, I do respect her choice. There is nothing wrong with being a homemaker. It’s all about one person’s choices and circumstances they face in their life.

My Chachi (aunt) is a lecturer. She gave her college exams after two days of her delivery. When she first told me this, I was amazed at her courage. I am equally proud of her as my mom. I respect her choice to work when she didn’t have to.

Altogether, there is nothing wrong in being a homemaker or professional. Every woman out there made her choice as her sentiments, circumstances, and emotions allow her to do so.

My mom was there for her kid when they needed a father but he was out and working.

My chachu was there for his kid when they needed a mother but she was out and working. They both managed their professional and personal life.

So stop judging women by her working status.

Yogi: A Masterstroke or Blunder?

I knew Mr. PM will bring the name of someone that would be like a bomb. Though I was rooting for Manoj Sinha because he was a fair choice. He has done enough work for his constituency as well as the upliftment of poor people.

I was shocked when I heard this news. Few days back I was discussing the very same thing with a friend and he was quite in the favor of Mr. Yogi but I wasn’t.

What exactly UP needs?

  1. UP needs someone who is fearless.
  2. UP needs someone who can take some big and strong action.
  3. UP needs someone who can do work which is visible in next two years.

Why?

  1. Fearless? To end the gunda raj of Akhilesh Yadav. The law and order of the state is so poor that houses of lower class was being burnt because SP lost the election.
  2. Bold decision? There are endless chances, scope and resource which can be used to develop the state. But unfortunately, nobody used the resources properly till date.
  3. Changes in two years? To be there in central government after 2019, Modi needs to work for UP more rigorously or else people won’t elect him again. That’s the truth. And the road to Delhi go from UP and Bihar.

Why Yogi?

There can be hundreds of reasons but I will focus on one reasons:

  • Modi want to end the caste system voting in UP. And Yogi was a perfect choice for that because of his hindutva image. Why are muslims and lower caste people are treated as vote bank? Why is it so hard to accept the fact that the person who hold strong hindu ideologies won’t work for muslims? His work for the next two year will speak for him. He can either increase the gap or bring Hindu/Muslims/Minorities under same roof. I hope for the later one.

Why Modi choose Yogi over Manoj Sinha, Rajnath Singh and Mr. Maurya?

There is no answer to this question and except PM, nobody can answer this. -_-

When demonetization happened everyone criticized Modi to great extent. But it turned out to be a master stroke in this election.

All we can do is trust Modi. We voted for him and not for Yogi, BJP or RSS. Ab modi ka kaam bolega UP mein. (Now modi’s work will speak in UP)

As A Man Thinketh

As a Man, Thinketh was published in 1903, written by James Allen. The title of the book was inspired by a verse in the Bible from the Book of Proverbs, chapter 23, verse 7: “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he”. James Allen’s words still resonate today, that’s the reason every single approach he talked about is practical in today’s world. Maybe because he wrote about the very nature of consciousness.

This book is of around 80 pages. Ah, you must be thinking that you can complete this in an hour or so but sorry to burst the bubble, this book will force you to think about your thoughts. And decoding the hidden message of the writer is not easy if reading you are really into or maybe I am just dumb. 😛

There are 7 short chapters, explaining on how our thoughts define who we are. I almost highlighted the entire book.

The key point of the book:

Our thoughts create us.

  • A man is literally what he thinks, his character being the complete sum of all his thoughts.
  • Good thoughts bear good fruit, bad thoughts bad fruit.

Become a master gardener of your mind.

  • Just as a gardener cultivates his plot, keeping it free from weeds, and growing the flowers and fruits which he requires, so may a man tend the garden of his mind, weeding out all the wrong, useless, and impure thoughts, and cultivating toward perfection the flowers and fruits of right, useful, and pure thoughts.

Luck does not determine our life.

  • There is no element of chance, but all is the result of a law which cannot err.

The magic of thinking big.

  • Dream lofty dreams, and as you dream, so shall you become.

We reap what we sow, many know this but hardly implement it.

  • Good thoughts and actions can never produce bad results; bad thoughts and actions can never produce good results. We understand this law in the natural world, and work with it; but few understand it in the mental and moral world—although its operation there is just as simple and undeviating—and they, therefore, do not cooperate with it.

Play the blame game or take action.

  • A man only begins to be a man when he ceases to whine and revile and commences to search for the hidden justice which regulates his life. And he adapts his mind to that regulating factor, he ceases to accuse others as the cause of his condition, and builds himself up in strong and noble thoughts; ceases to kick against circumstances, but begins to use them as aids to his more rapid progress, and as a means of the hidden powers and possibilities within himself.

You can download the pdf from here.

Compliments: How to ruin it?

 

This happened two -three years back.

A very good friend of mine asked me whether I have watched, A walk to remember or not. Generally, I don’t watch movies and Hollywood is definitely a no-no. Then he forced me to watch the movie.

After watching the movie, I asked what was so special?

He said, “You are to me, what Jamie was for Landon”.

And for few seconds my mind was blank, then I said, “You know I am not dying and even if something like that happened to me I am sure you can save me as you are a doctor. Other than that Papa won’t let me die.”

*Facepalm*

That’s how I basically ruined one of the sweetest compliment which I ever received. *Sigh*

When was the last time you received a sweet compliment? Do tell us.

Right Or Kind, what would you choose?

 

Background: A person who has failed an exam.

Being Right:

You know what, the exam for which you are preparing is really difficult. I don’t think you can make it. Look out for some other options.


Being Kind:

You are not the only one who has failed. It’s okay. You will clear it next time.


Being Right and Kind:

I understand that the papers were difficult this time. Also, the chances of clearing the exam is really low. But I know you can make it. You have come this far, just a little more hard work and you would be living your dreams. Also, we can explore the other options as well.


To be right, doesn’t mean you have to be blunt and harsh. The right thing and the kindness can walk hand-in-hand. There is nothing great in being right and harsh.

It’s all about your perception. 🙂

The Last Lecture: Lesson In Living

The Last Lecture, a lecture given by a professor about life when he was on his death bed. Originally, he had given a lecture which was later converted into a book.

The idea of the last lecture was a hypothetical question, “If you know you are going to die and you have one last lecture to give, what would you say to your students?” though, for Mr. Pausch, it wasn’t hypothetical. He was fighting pancreatic cancer. He had only a few days in his hand, instead of spending time with his family he chose to give this lecture. This lecture was very very very important for him.

I don’t think I can do justice in explaining what this novel is all about. But I can definitely pen down some beautiful message Mr. Pausch wanted to tell the world.

  • The importance of critics in life:

When you see yourself doing something badly and nobody’s bothering to tell you anymore, that’s a bad place to be. You may not want to hear it, but your critics are often the ones telling you they still love you and care about you, and want to make you better.

  • Play fair, not every decision is a wise one:

Never make a decision until you have to. Just because you’re in the driver’s seat doesn’t mean you have to run people over.

I so wish Salman Khan knew this.

  • Sometimes the world doesn’t need to know about your perseverance. Your success says it all.

I didn’t want anyone to know just how long it took me to be successful. Tenacity is a virtue, but it’s not always crucial for everyone to observe how hard you work at something.

Mr. Pausch was good at winning soft toys.

  • Have specific dreams.

Even dreams need to be perfect and specific. Randy didn’t wanted to be an astronaut, he wanted to float specifically feel it. When he got older, he found a way to experience zero-gravity, without having to first become an astronaut.

  • It’s not what you say, but how you say it is important.

Words play an important role in our life. Sometimes a sugar coated twisted truth, can change the entire game unlike a blunt truth.

Mr. Pausch shared an incident, where two people say the same thing, but in different ways: “I don’t know” is different than, “Well, I don’t have much information but one of my star faculty members is here and he’s all excited so I want to learn more.”

  • There is no such thing called failure.

Mr. Pausch wrote it beautifully, “Experience is what you get when you didn’t get what you wanted.”

This line feels so good and it is so motivating. We all know this but I wonder how many actually believe it strongly.

  • Find the best in everybody.

Find the best in everybody, no matter how you have to wait for them to show it. “You might have to wait a long time, sometimes years, but People will show you their good side. Just keep waiting no matter how long it takes. No one is all evil. Everybody has a good side. Just keep waiting, it will come out.”

  • No problem comes without a solution.

No matter how bad things are, you can always make things worse. At the same time, it is often within your power to make them better. It’s all about what you choose to do and how you deal with life.

  • Tigger or Eeyore?

Please watch winne the Pooh to understand it better. I so knew it, every single character of that cartoon convey some real messages. You just have to decode it better.

But this one is coming from Mr. Pausch: You need to decide if you’re Tigger or Eeyore. Tigger finds the fun in every situation. Eeyore wallows in self-misery.

This is so very important, people need to understand self-pity is not going to take you anywhere. It will only drown you deeper and deeper. Learn to take responsibility of your actions because only you and you are responsible for it.

  • Time must be explicitly managed, like money.

Though we all know how valuable time is, still money is treated as the most precious thing.

  • You can always change your plan, but only if you have one.

Mr. Pausch was a big believer in to-do lists. It helps us break life into small steps. The most useful to-do list, breaks tasks into small steps. It’s very encouraging, after every step you can always take yourself on treat.

  • Ask yourself: Are you spending your time on the right things?

You may have causes, goals, interests. Are they even worth pursuing? I’ve long held on to a clipping from a newspaper in Roanoke, Virginia. It featured a photo of a pregnant woman who had lodged a protest against a local construction site. She worried that the sound of jackhammers was injuring her unborn child. But get this: In the photo, the woman is holding a cigarette. If she cared about her unborn child, the time she spent railing against jackhammers would have been better spent putting out that cigarette.

This is so so so important in today’s world. There is so freaking much to do, that we forget about the important things in race of accomplishing all unimportant things.

That’s all for now. This post was getting so long that I had to stop.

8 Lessons To Be Learnt From “To Kill A Mockingbird”

To read this novel was one of the most difficult things in my life. Like seriously, reading this novel was a real pain.

Why?

I don’t know what was wrong with me but for some reason, which is beyond my understanding, it never hooked me and it took me AGES to finish it!. Generally, I complete any novel in a day or two but not this one. *Facepalm*

“Atticus is really really really incredible, a role model in a true sense. I was in love with Scout and Jem, those kids will be in my heart forever. Oh! And I loved the Boo Radley’s storyline, it left me in awe”.

The story is amazing and exceptionally told, you can definitely learn few lessons which should or can, be implemented in one’s life.

Here you go:

Lesson 1: Never judge a person.

You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view… Until you climb inside of his skin and walk around in it.

Lesson 2: Courage comes from within.

I wanted you to see what real courage is, instead of getting the idea that courage is a man with a gun in his hand. It’s when you know you’re licked before you begin, but you begin anyway and see it through no matter what.

Lesson 3: Never pay heed to people’s opinion

People generally see what they look for, and hear what they want to.

Lesson 4: Treat everyone equally.

I think there’s just one kind of folks. Folks

Lesson 5: Respect people’s perception but do what your heart says.

They’re certainly entitled to think that, and they’re entitled to full respect for their opinions… but before I can live with other folks I’ve got to live with myself. The one thing that doesn’t abide by majority rule is a person’s conscience.

Lesson 6: Trust is the greatest gift a person can give you.

We’re paying the highest tribute you can pay a man. We trust him to do the right.

Lesson 7: Respect people.

As you grow older, you’ll see white men cheat black men every day of your life, but let me tell you something and don’t you forget it—whenever a white man does that to a black man, no matter who he is, how rich he is, or how fine a family he comes from, that white man is trash.

Lesson 8: Be optimistic.

(When the night is darkest, know this morning is near.)

Things are always better in the morning.

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